For many Filipinos, the holiday season is both a time of celebration and a source of emotional strain. Family gatherings, while anticipated, can trigger anxiety even before they begin. Often, a single comment—“Uy, tumaba ka!” or “Bakit di ka pa nag-aasawa?”—from a tita or tito can set the tone for the day. The expectation that such remarks are inevitable can make some wonder, even before arriving, if attending the gathering is even worth it.
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Managing Family Gatherings and Holiday Stress
The Department of Health (DOH) reminds the public to prioritize mental well-being during this period, as stress from family reunions, social obligations, and work pressures tends to peak. Health Secretary Teodoro Herbosa noted that mental health consultations rise across all age groups during the holidays, underscoring the importance of self-care and emotional awareness.
Experts caution that family reunions can surface unresolved conflicts or amplify feelings of inadequacy. Dr. Rodney Boncajes of the National Center for Mental Health highlighted that subtle insults, or “microaggressions,” are common in these settings.
“Usually, it’s a comparison statement that is a bit insensitive... Why don’t you have a child yet? When are you going to get married? Or, your cousin has already bought a car, but you’re still commuting,” Boncajes said.
He advised people to think before speaking, as careless words can unintentionally hurt loved ones. Social media may also worsen feelings of isolation, with online comparisons and the fear of face-to-face interactions heightening emotional stress.
Recognizing the Signs and Seeking Support
Monitoring mental health is essential to prevent temporary sadness from developing into depression. Boncajes explained, “Being sad at a certain moment can be a normal reaction. But what we would like to watch out for is: Is this loneliness becoming depression? Is it becoming a depressive episode or depressive symptoms that would require an intervention?”
Warning signs include persistent loneliness lasting two to three weeks, changes in sleep or appetite, low energy, hopelessness, or thoughts of self-harm. Filipinos experiencing these symptoms are encouraged to consult a mental health professional. The DOH assures that its services remain accessible, including online consultations.
The World Health Organization notes that certain groups—those separated from family, healthcare workers on duty, individuals grieving, or people facing life challenges—are particularly vulnerable during the holidays. By fostering awareness and promoting supportive practices, the DOH encourages all Filipinos to approach the season mindfully, recognizing that emotional well-being is as important as festive celebrations.
